When Mercury in your chart forms an aspect to another person’s Saturn. When Mercury in your chart forms an aspect to your partner’s Saturn, form, logic, and reality are important elements in your communications. This is not a combination that encourages flowing or superfluous conversations between you. Validity of what you communicate, concentration on syntax, and realism are emphasized.
Square, Opposition, or Quincunx
When your Mercury forms a challenging aspect (square, opposition, or quincunx) to your partner’s Saturn, there may be strong elements of teaching and learning in your relationship, as well as deep respect for each other’s intelligence. However, over time, there can be a subtle competitiveness between you on a mental level that can actually be quite destructive if not attended to. The Mercury person can feel intimidated by the Saturn person’s practicality. Mercury might feel childish or not “bright enough”. Saturn could be silent often. There can be a serious tone to your conversations that impedes a natural flow of communication. Negativity or criticism may dominate your communications from time to time. Try to avoid focusing on problems or negative stories/expressions of ideas. Mercury may feel belittled or perhaps immature/illogical in Saturn’s presence, feeling as if Saturn is watching him/her too closely or is overly critical and fault-finding.
When the aspect between Mercury and Saturn is a flowing one (sextile or trine), your Saturn partner helps you to structure your thoughts, plan your life, and give form to your ideas. You feel that you can learn a lot from Saturn’s wisdom. Saturn offers practical advice and tips that truly improve Mercury’s life. Your Saturn partner listens well, guides, and disciplines you in mostly pleasing ways. Together, you tend to solve relationship problems through careful, step-by-step, and logical communication. Your conversations may be on the dry or serious side at times, however.
The conjunction of Mercury and Saturn between charts can possess shades of both the challenging and flowing aspects mentioned above. From our Romantic Compatibility report: Your relationship may have begun without serious communication problems, although there can be some reserve at the beginning, as Mercury especially feels somewhat awkward and self-conscious around Saturn in terms of what to say, how to say it, and so forth. As the relationship develops, however, difficulties in communicating can develop. Saturn can help Mercury clarify and define ideas, but very often ends up criticizing or belittling them instead which makes Mercury doubt, withhold, or simply stay quiet. Saturn needs to be very careful not to interrupt, ignore, or judge Mercury when Mercury is speaking. Also, your conversations tend to focus on serious topics or practical affairs and business, which can become dull for one or both of you. If both of you are open-minded, Mercury appreciates Saturn’s advice and this can lead to a deeper sense of meaning. Saturn is capable of helping to add structure to Mercury’s life, offering practical advice.
At the beginning, there can be a real feeling of mutual respect regarding how each person uses his or her brain, how they communicate, and how they think. The Mercury person may, in some ways, look up to the Saturn person, who tends to display a rather mature way of thinking that Mercury admires. Mercury may look to Saturn for advice, and Saturn responds with much enthusiasm, delighting in helping Mercury, and even teaching him or her. As time goes on, inevitably Mercury will excitedly share an experience wherein he or she had an enlightening conversation with a friend – outside of their relationship. Saturn can feel mighty threatened by this simple experience. Saturn does not feel comfortable with that initial bond changing, or what he or she perceives as changing. Why isn’t Mercury turning to him or her? Saturn may deal with this fear by putting down the experience, punching holes in the theory that this threatening “other” has presented to Mercury.
It doesn’t even have to be about another person. Perhaps Mercury discovered on his or her own a new way of thinking that inspired him or her. This can be just as threatening to Saturn, who finds security in that initial bond that felt exclusive and special, whereby Mercury and Saturn came together with a mutual understanding that they turned to each other for advice and inspiring conversations. In fact, anything that happens outside of the relationship in the area represented by the personal planet can be seen as a threat to the exclusive bond the couple had at the beginning of the relationship. In truth, the bond is likely still there from the point of view of Mercury. But Saturn sees it differently. Saturn fears anything that threatens the initial bond they formed, and sees any signs of growth on Mercury’s part as a threat to that bond.