The Ascendant in Synastry
The Ascendant expresses our “body ego”—how we express ourselves through our body language and personal mannerisms. It also shows how we cope with the daily demands of life, our first reactions, and how we initiate projects. Naturally, when the Ascendant of one person’s chart contacts the planets (or Ascendant) of another, the reaction is immediate and, often, apparent. While it is common enough that there can be an attraction to the physical body, it is more than likely a reaction to the Ascendant person’s whole body ego—the manner in which he/she comes across, or the “packaging”.
Jupiter in Synastry
When Jupiter in one person’s chart forms aspects with a personal planet or Ascendant in their partner’s chart, a special relationship is formed. The Jupiter person tends to give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Jupiter sees the good in the area of life and energy of the other’s contacted planet. Jupiter doesn’t tend to blind itself to the negative (that is Neptune’s job!). It simply searches for the positive, and finds much to like about the person. You can think of the Jupiter taking on the role of loving father who naturally finds goodness in his child. This is not the kind of father who refuses to see the “bad”, or who totally glorifies or idealizes his child. In fact, Jupiter is quite likely to see the negative, but he only wants to see his child grow, and easily excuses the less desirable traits, preferring to think that the good outweighs the bad. He is unthreatened by the child’s behavior. The Jupiter person in synastry wants to help out, cheer up, and encourage the other person. Jupiter gets the most pleasure when he sees his loved one grow.
Therefore, if Jupiter contacts another person’s Moon, the Jupiter person will find the Moon person’s expression of his emotions, family values, and natural habits really quite wonderful and pleasing. Jupiter will encourage Moon to emote, to feel, and to seek security. Jupiter will have a strong need to protect the Moon person.
When Jupiter contacts Venus, a pleasing attraction occurs between the two individuals. In the final analysis, Jupiter will give the Venus person the benefit of the doubt at all times. Jupiter will forgive, and even forget. Under Jupiter’s influence, the Venus person will feel free to express his or her relationship needs, desire for pleasure, and romantic inclinations. The two will have a grand time, full of natural humor and enjoyment. There is a strong desire for peace, and forgiveness comes very easy. If the aspect is troublesome, they may also encourage each other to over-indulge. This is when Jupiter becomes the indulgent father. The desire to see the other person enjoy life may be taken a little too far.
Jupiter aspects in synastry are generally very helpful. While other difficult aspects may exist in synastry, overall goodwill between the individuals will outlast the conflicts. At the very least, even if these two end up parting, they will do so on good terms, remaining special friends.
Mars in Synastry
Mars, in relationship astrology, is the planet of sexual expression and desire. It shows us our animal instincts. While Venus rules romantic attraction, Mars indicates a more animal need for sex and assertion. It is important to note that Mars in synastry does not point to the need to be together forever. But, if other indicators of love and relationship are already present in synastry, strong Mars connections will help (or hinder) the relationship, mostly in the bedroom.
When powerful interaspects of Mars occur, sex may not be as ecstatic and rich as those indicated by Venus, but it may be quite satisfying on a basic body level. When Mars figures strongly in synastry, but the aspects involved are quite difficult, the couple may find a lot to argue about.
Even though Mars aspects may not bring together people in the first place, they have a lot of value. The conflict that they bring to a relationship can be difficult at times, but invigorating as well. If the individuals are growth-oriented, the basic truths that Mars interaspects bring will contribute to overall satisfaction. When Saturn is not involved, this couple will argue, and the growth that they pull from the conflict will likely spur them to have great sex together.
Mars-Sun interaspects generally highlight action and physical attraction. The difficult aspects can indicate a passionate relationship that is filled with conflict. Mars-Moon interaspects can be very sexy and sometimes volatile. Emotionalism and domestic arguments can figure strongly in such a relationship when the difficult aspects are involved. Mars-Mercury interaspects, when flowing, indicate passionate and stimulating conversations. When difficult, regular discussions quickly turn into arguments. The Mars native may show insensitivity to the Mercury native’s point of view. Mars-Neptune aspects are generally indicative of sexual attraction, which can be disruptive and variable if the aspects are difficult. Mars-Pluto interaspects are similarly stimulating, though more intensely so. Difficult aspects can create battles of wills that threaten harmony.
One of the most difficult aspects to occur between two charts is Mars-Saturn when it is in conjunction, square, or opposition. Unless the partners involved are prepared to work on the relationship with a sincere desire for growth, the tensions, frustrations, and blockages can feel insurmountable.
Challenges of Mars–Saturn Aspects in Synastry:
When Mars in one person’s chart forms an aspect to their partner’s Saturn, special handling is required. The hard aspects in particular can be very problematic. The conjunction of Mars and Saturn in synastry is best understood when you consider the individual energies of these two planets. The qualities of the sign that Saturn occupies points to expressions that do not come naturally to Saturn. Saturn feels awkward or inhibited expressing the energies of the sign, and often will try to compensate by trying to exercise control over these characteristics in his or her personality. In contrast, the characteristics of the sign that Mars occupies are expressed fully, naturally, and with enthusiasm! You can only imagine what this means in a relationship. If both individuals are considerate of each other, and are growth-oriented, the relationship can be a great learning experience. For example, if the conjunction occurs in Aries, the Mars individual will take action, and express his or her “me-first” tendency freely and unabashedly. Aries, quite simply, comes naturally to Mars! Saturn, on the other hand, feels unnatural expressing these traits. Perhaps Saturn feels guilty when taking the lead. Where Mars rushes right in, Saturn carefully appraises the situation before he goes into it, if he doesn’t withdraw from it altogether. Mars can have much to learn from SaturnMars can learn how to think a little before acting, and tone down his or her aggressiveness and impatience. As well, Saturn has much to learn from Mars. Saturn may secretly long to be just like Mars, going after what it wants without fear of failure.
On the other hand, if Mars is not sensitive to Saturn’s feelings of inadequacy, he or she may simply assert independence, tease Saturn for being inept or withdrawn, and run roughshod over Saturn’s feelings. Similarly, if Saturn doesn’t want to face up to his or her own feelings of inadequacy, Saturn may do everything in their power to bring Mars down, control Mars, and limit Mars’ expression.
When Mars squares, quincunxes, or opposes Saturn in synastry, this second scenario is quite likely. At the beginning of the relationship, Saturn is often unfettered by Mars’ energy, and may even find it attractive. With time, Saturn becomes annoyed with Mars’ seeming lack of discipline and “childishness”. How Saturn handles this will be very important. Unfortunately, very often the Saturn native uses subtle ways to undermine the Mars native’s confidence. Saturn attempts to control Mars by limiting, blocking, and undermining Mars. Mars feels like he or she is always in the wrong in Saturn’s eyes. When Mars laughs naturally and freely, Saturn stares at Mars with a superior look, as if Mars is being foolish. Saturn may criticize Mars for everything from the way Mars dresses to how he or she behaves with others. Saturn perceives Mars as over-confident and frivolous, gets annoyed at the drop of a hat, and lets Mars know, either with direct criticism or a general air of disapproval. For a while, Mars tries to win back Saturn’s favor. After all, the very traits that Saturn seemed to love about Mars at the beginning of the relationship have turned into things to criticize. The nature of Mars is rather aggressive, however, so this period will likely be short-lived. Mars will then become angry at Saturn for all of Saturn’s overly-serious behavior and disapproval. Mars may rebel and flaunt themselves before Saturn, which in turn makes Saturn feel all the more need to inhibit and restrict Mars. Can you see where this is going? The relationship has turned into living hell. Any latent aggressive tendencies in either individual become larger than life. At the very least, verbal abusiveness can result. Physical aggression is sometimes the next step if these discordant energies get out of hand. Eventually, Mars will want to leave, which can anger Saturn even more. These aspects require special handling, and both parties should be growth-oriented in order to manage the discordant energies.
The trine and sextile create a different energy. There is a constancy and predictability in the Saturn person that Mars finds very attractive. At restless times in our lives, however, predictability can sometimes be equated with boredom. However, much of the time, Mars takes comfort in the knowledge that Saturn’s passions are really quite constant. The Mars person knows that Saturn will be there when needed. Mars can depend on Saturn. This aspect can be a very stabilizing one. Predictability and dependability are virtues that can sometimes be overshadowed by more glamorous “features” of relationships, and it is normal for these qualities to be undervalued from time to time. However, it’s also a good idea to take the time every now and again to appreciate the overall stability of your relationship. At times, Mars may feel a little self-conscious about introducing new ways of doing things, particularly in the bedroom, as a result of Saturn’s constancy. However, Mars may be surprised to find a warm audience in Saturn, and Saturn is likely to appreciate the Mars individual’s initiative, perceiving him or her to be a masterful initiator. Much will depend, however, on the condition of Mars and Saturn natally.
Aspects in Synastry
In Synastry, conjunctions between partners’ planets and points represent a point of powerful interaction. Depending on the planets involved, there can be a strong feeling of similarity and recognition. The opposition represents polarity and the power of attraction. This can result in a feeling of complementing each other, but it can also bring out feelings of competition and insecurity. There can be a tendency to “see-saw” or “ping-pong” with the opposition—when one person expresses their planet’s energy, the other person counters with their side of the “equation”. There is a countering effect here, and often a feeling of literally being “opposed” or thwarted. Sextiles and trines (generally considered “flowing” aspects) often suggest an ease at blending the two planets’ or points’ energies. There is often a warm and pleasant understanding and flow. These aspects do not necessarily generate attraction (as a conjunction might), but they are very supportive in a relationship. Trines generally indicate energies that combine well, while sextiles are usually points of compatibility that the couple notice and appreciate. Squares often point to energies that need work in order to integrate them easily into the interaction. While lack of understanding and frustration can be the result, they can also create just the right amount of tension to produce excitement in a relationship. Growth-oriented individuals will find that these “discordant” energies can spur them to new heights of understanding.
While it is helpful to consider any one interchart aspect carefully, it is also illuminating to consider the signs involved in the interaction. For example, squares between planets occupying mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces) can point to problems that are expressed in fussiness, restlessness, nagging, and pickiness. Frequent annoyances and irritations, often that skirt the real conflict, are common. Between cadent signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn), conflicts are more likely to be stormy, direct, and overt—occasional big fights are typical. Between fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius), there can be frequent stand-offs. Of course, not all squares occur between planets in the same modality, but these examples serve as a general guideline.