We can learn a lot about ourselves and others through an exploration of positions, placements, and aspects in astrology birth (natal) charts. Love and sex are areas of our lives that intrigue us all. There are specific things to look for in astrology that will help shed light on individual temperaments, preferences, and styles.
Venus, the goddess of love, reveals much about the way we approach relationships, romance, and love. Its placement by sign, house, and aspect shows how and where we go about expressing love.
The placement of Mars in a natal chart reveals what motivates and energizes individuals, how they express their drive, what they want, and how they go about getting what they want.
Listed below are some specific sex secrets of Venus and Mars in the signs:
When Venus or Mars is in Aries
, sex is best when it’s spontaneous and unrestricted. These people melt when their partner gives themselves to them innocently and purely. Some of them look for trouble in love, and are addicted to the conquest. Their heads are erogenous zones they love it when you mess up their hair and grab their face when they are making love. They can be rather selfish in bed, and quick. They can get impatient with too much foreplay, preferring to get right to the point. Sometimes aggressive, and generally fast, these lovers are sincere and enthusiastic in their sexual expression, but not always constant. Their desires are powerful indeed. While other signs may be most aroused by the romance of the moment, both male and females with this position are especially aroused by their partner’s sexual organs, plain and simple. These people fall in and out of “crush” easilythey only feel alive when they have someone to desire.
When Venus or Mars is in Taurus
, the sexual nature involves all of the senses. Touch and smell are supremely important to these lovers. These are the most physical of sexual partners. No frills sex is quite fine, as long as the mood is right and there is plenty of physical contact. These lovers don’t have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do nonetheless, simply because they are truly right there with you. Abstaining from sex is especially difficult for Taurus, so finding a regular sex partner is particularly important. Their sexual stamina during love-making is long-lasting and steady. Although generally patient, their style is natural and physical, and intellectualizing the sex act would only serve to baffle Taurus.
When Venus or Mars is in Gemini
, use words in bed with them. Talk turns them on, and they love to kiss! Oral pleasures are extra special for these lovers. They love role-playing, as long as it is varied. They are generally fun in bed, if you can forgive their sudden bursts of speech during the act. To you, an intellectual conversation may interrupt lovemaking, but to them, it’s just extended foreplay. Sometimes given to trying too much in one session, these lovers are enthusiastic and curious about all kinds of sexual expression. Still, many people with this position are not wanton lovers. The Gemini tendency to over-think brings up all of the “buts” and “what ifs” surrounding sex. They are less driven by their desires than they are by their intellect.
When Venus or Mars is in Cancer
, you’ll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. When they’re not pouting, they are romantic and gooey with you. They are turned on by slave scenarios, and they may like it when you’re a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know you love them. Some of them are turned on by the idea of making a baby, and others just love the idea of being all yours in bed. They are known as the sign most attracted to breasts, and they generally like their men rather masculine and their women feminine, at least in fantasy. They don’t always let you know what turns them on, and expect you to intuit their sexual needs. Their style in bed is protective and soothing; devoted and emotional. Romantic and sentimental touches add something special to the equation, especially for Venus in Cancer.
When Venus or Mars is in Leo
, the fantasies often revolve around devotion and attention. These people are most turned on when their partner thinks they are gods or goddesses. Although they will take care of their partners in bed, their natural inclination is to get off themselves. Their pride in their lovemaking compels them to try to be the best in bed. While some want a mate they can show off, many prefer not to have two stars in the same household. They can be quite possessive and jealous, although they’ll often try to hide this fact. In fact, they may put their partners to the test every now and again, and the more insecure ones will demand the world from their partners, if only to have them prove their love. They are prone to fibbing when it comes to love and sex, as they are out to impress their mates. They are attracted to inequality in sexual scenarios. However, they won’t let you always play the knavethey are attracted to seeing you in the most regal of scenarios too. It is hard for these people to separate love and sex. Even their most erotic sexual fantasies are infused with love and affection. They can sometimes come on too strong, and get impatient when their needs are not met soon enough, but you may appreciate their direct sexual expression, and their openness in bed.
When Venus or Mars is in Virgo
, there is generally a healthy attitude towards sex. Sex to them is a bodily function, necessary for health and general well-being. Everyday stresses and tensions are released in sex, whether it’s with others or with themselves. They are turned on by people who have largely gone unnoticed. Simple and sweet is the way they like their bed partners. They also get turned on by the idea that they are your slave. They love doing little things for you, and get worked up when they know you appreciate all the things they do. They can be a little insecure about their own bodies, and they make up for it by paying close attention to their methods of turning you on. They are very respectful of your likes and dislikes, and focus on the things that have had the most success. Virgo is the sign of the virgin, and this aspect gives others the idea that they are very selective. Don’t be entirely fooled by this, however. They are not as picky as they appear. In fact, they love imperfections and have the best time with a partner who needs care. They’ll make a project out of you, and you will likely never feel quite so attended to with anyone else. Their fantasies often feature the downtrodden and inexperienced. They are insatiably curious about sex, although many don’t take their curiosity much beyond fantasy. Voyeurism is especially appealing to these lovers. We are giving Virgo a little more attention than other signs simply because we feel this sign has been misunderstood on the topic of sex. They are generally not as picky and particular as their reputation saysand they are not as “virginal” either. In fact, they want to please and to be savvy in the lovemaking arena. They’ll generally “do” more than many other signs, and they’re not afraid of getting dirty either, within the confines of a healthy relationship.
When Venus or Mars is in Libra
, extra care is taken to please the partner. These people can be provocative in a quiet way. Their need for balance and perfection in their relationships may manifest itself at all the wrong moments. In bed, these lovers want things to be balanced. They love working on getting things right, and are especially turned on by role-playing sex games. They have a strong need for change and growth in their sexual expression. They are givers in bed, but they fully expect you to give equally in return. Although they can be pushed around for a time, their lovers must be aware that the best way to keep Libra lovers happy is to keep everything fair. These lovers can be a little picky when it comes to mood and atmosphere while making love (Virgo is all too often assigned this trait, but our experience suggests that Libra is the pickiest of lovers). Make them happy, however, and you have a lover who is going to think about you and your needs. These lovers can charm the birds out of the trees when they want to.
When Venus or Mars is in Scorpio
, the sexual nature can be quite complex. These lovers generally share a common intensity and depth in their sexual desires, but they vary in expression depending on their level of development. Some enjoy power and are attracted to breaking taboos. These lovers are willing to do almost anything, and they enjoy full-body pleasures. Others express their need for control by being unavailable and abstaining for long periods of time, giving in only when they feel their partner is deserving. Whatever their nature, they have a way that promises commitment and intensity in bed. They are provocative but private. Most will never kiss and tell. Sex is intimate and personal for Scorpio, but their fantasies are full-ranging.
When Venus or Mars is in Sagittarius
, sex is treated rather like a sport. These lovers are direct and forthcoming with their desires and needs. They have an almost innocent frankness about them, and they love to have fun in bed. Laughing and roughhousing are huge turn-ons. They are actually a bit selfish in sex, and their need to “get off” will almost always be expressed. Games are acceptable for Sagittarius lovers, just as long as they are not too time-consuming or intricate. They have little patience with people playing hard to get or beating around the bush. The same goes for too much seriousness or romancing. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it, and then talk about it after the fact, if need be.
When Venus or Mars is in Capricorn
, sex that is straightforward and simple is generally best. The reputation for Capricorn lovers is an attraction to experienced, and sometimes older, partners. They often prefer strong, powerful lovers who display some sort of authority or know-how. These lovers prefer a certain measure of discretion. Capricorn is an earth sign, and this earthiness shows up in love-making styleit’s generally no-frills that is most appealing to these lovers. They can be quite happy with consistency, as variety is less important to them than is security in sexual expression. However, their sexuality is deep and powerful. They are often quite private about what goes on in the bedroom. Although some will want others to know that they are on top of things in their sex life, they generally won’t get into messy details.
When Venus or Mars is in Aquarius
, there is a “take it or leave it” style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience. They don’t have a reputation for warmth in sex, although they may think the other way around because, at least in theory, they are open-minded. They give off an air of being savvy and cool in bed. Sex from a distance (when you are not actually there physically), or in theory, is often where they shine. That is why cyber or phone sex, or affairs that don’t break up marriages, can be especially attractive to these folks. They are most turned on when you are not, as detachment can be a real turn-on for them. And, again, the idea of sex is generally more exciting to these lovers than the actual act. Their fantasies often involve getting caught having sex, and they are attracted to people who are a little offbeat or odd.
When Venus or Mars is in Pisces
, a subtle approach to flirting and sex is taken on. These lovers are generally open to all of the avenues of sexual expression, especially the nooks and crannies. They are forgiving and bending, and they are generally willing to please. At times romantic and gooey, these lovers are actually a bit like chameleons. It’s hard to pin them down to any one style. They may talk a lot one evening, and be withdrawn the next. In general, they prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice, compassion, and even religion can be mixed into their sexual expression. They’re very sensitive but will almost always forgive you. They’ll even let you go if you so desire, and love you forever anyways. Although they can be shy and yielding, their lovers can sometimes find them maddeningly detached and spaced. Their fantasies are intricate and detailed, and they are attracted to the downtrodden or needy.